Empowerment will ultimately lead to transformation. Out of the ashes of your life, you can find beauty.
Confidence is a side effect of being true to your Self – your True Self, that is. Confidence comes when you can heal the mis-perceptions of your identity, when you can open the door and let your inner splendor, your light emerge.
"You do not become good by trying to be good, but by finding the goodness that is already within you and allowing that goodness to emerge" ~Eckhart Tolle
You cannot build true confidence by acting a certain way, wearing designer suits or obtaining three PhDs. These are external measures of success and are relative. If you are comparing your worth based on what others say, your confidence will be about as stable as a boulder sitting on the edge of a cliff.
It generally does not take much to push you over the edge into insecurity. In fact, advertisers and media are betting on the side of your insecurity.
You will never be "good enough" as long as you compare yourself to some fluctuating external value. It is this focusing of our attention on what we are taught to call “flaws” or made to feel ashamed of as children, that causes most people a lifetime of hiding in the dark instead of shining.
There is only one original you, so why are you so desperately trying to look and act like a copy of someone else? And who is this “someone else” that gets to set the gold standard? Do you see how futile this game is? You cannot possibly win with rules like this.
I believe that the only way to have true confidence is to wake up and make the journey back home to your True Self. Authenticity is alive and well at your core. Core confidence is the basis for true empowerment, and when you are empowered, you can shine and show the world your real confidence by just being comfortable in your own skin and accepting the human character (as in roles, characters, plays, drama – get it?) flaws as a part of living on the planet and being in a body.
Having compassion for these flaws in others and ourselves, is a part of the journey to love. True love, not wounded narcissistic, or needy-approval-from-others-kind-of-love, but healthy love comes from your Spirit, from your soul. The outer world cannot give it to you, and the powerful thing is, the outer world cannot take it away. Have you been looking for love in all the wrong places?
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