The Confidence Doc

Empowerment: Do You Really Know What You Want?

It is empowering to feel clarity and excitement about experiencing what you want in life.  When you feel that you know what you want, and you’ve taken the necessary inspired action to materialize it, chances are you feel pretty good inside.

It certainly appears to me that at the heart of the matter what everybody is searching for is happiness and inner peace.  These two can only come from the inside out, and they are companions of love. 

Not the Hollywood version of love, or the dysfunctional/co-dependent "I can't live without you" kind of love.  I'm referring to the kind of love that is the rock of power, the Love that come from your core, your Spirit and it never fails. 

As long as you stay distracted by externals, via the media or by looking for love in all the wrong places, you will never find the inner peace and power that is your birthright and is waiting for you to turn within.  As long as you do not go within, you will go with out (external) and you will live without the sense of empowerment that is deep down inside, that you sense is possible. 

Happiness is not a person place or thing. 

Law of Attraction: NOW is Your Point of Power

Law of attraction is a hot topic these days.  I remember the first time I heard of it which was about ten years ago; I thought it was “woo-woo” and spooky. 

It was unfamiliar to me, and I did not really want to “go there”.  However, since I was seriously searching for some answers regarding the “secrets of the Universe”, eventually, I kept finding more and more information on the topic and I begin to become conscious of the connection between my thoughts, feelings and actions and what was showing up in my life. 

I started to notice that what I thought, how I felt, what I said and what I did lead to a given outcome, whether I wanted it, or NOT!  You see, it is not whether you want it; it is all about the “vibe”.  Feelings play a huge role in the process. 

What you put out to the Universe in terms of your energy via thoughts and feelings, will return to you for Life is a mirror.  It reflects back to you what you really believe, especially at an unconscious level! Your thoughts and feelings will determine what your brain notices and what actions you will ultimately take. 

In fact, belief is really “emotionalized thought”! What you feel NOW is energizing what you are choosing to focus on and what you focus on strengthens the associated thoughts and feelings.  It becomes a feedback loop.

Personal Transformation: Rising Above Your Present Drama

Transformation literally means to rise above form, or transcend “form”.  Form is what you are seeing in your world at the moment.  And here is what I’ve discovered: what I see was formed by my perceptions. 

My perceptual system is unique to me in many ways.  My thoughts, emotions and feelings create the vision and energy that forms how I experience life.  I know that most people still believe that we are hapless victims of circumstances.  I used to. 

It has been so freeing to realize that this is just not the case.  While I cannot control everything in my world, I can control how I react to a great degree.  Here’s an as yet little known point that is powerful - how conscious are you to recognize that the physical world starts within the quantum field of all that is? 

In practical terms, everything is energy and then the invisible, tiny particles of waves and particles “gel” into form according to our consciousness.  While science shows there is no such thing as space and that the “observer” affects the movement of the quantum field, there is much controversy over “what is consciousness”? 

Personal Empowerment: Happiness Empowers Self-Mastery

Personal empowerment has to begin with making a decision that you will be willing to change.  Yes, if you want to receive different results, you will have to start thinking, feeling and acting differently! 

When I first decided years ago that I wanted to have more sense of personal power, I was partially motivated by wanting to be “happy”.  I thought that “if I could just get” – you fill in the blanks – then I would be happy.

Well, I had it backwards and I find that most people I’ve talked to or in books that I have read, make this mistake.  It is as if people believe that getting to place “X” or getting object “y” or meeting the “right” person will “make” them happy. 

This is totally backwards and is a major reason most people have to revise their thinking for personal empowerment to expand.  The proper sequence of events as far as conscious creation is to “Be, Do, Have”. 

That is, you must create the state, or get into the vibe energetically in order to attract the ideas and perform the actions that will attract to you your goal.  Take me for example. 

Empowerment: Running From Life Lessons Will Trip You Up!

Empowerment is necessary to take the reigns of control of your life on purpose.  If you feel that life is just happening to you and you are a victim of circumstances, one of the reasons is due to your refusal to look your fears in the face and deal with your life lessons. 

Life lessons are those areas that cause you to play small and require your faith, discipline, courage and action to change.  They challenge you.  You can think of your journey as a type of journey to empowerment. 

I have come to see more frequently all setbacks or disappointments as opportunities for growth.  I purposely rise high enough intentionally to see things from a transcendent view and I ask the questions about what can I learn here and I look for recurring themes in the story at hand. 

If I see patterns, I really pay close attention.  If I feel fear or resistance, I look even closer.  You see if you are serious about the Law of Attraction and intentionally co-creating your best life, you will have to stop running from your life lessons or you will keep falling down in your attempt to expand your life. 

You can consult all of the marketing know-how gurus and spend a ton of money on seminars that have you walking across hot coals.  In the real world of practicality, subconscious fears dealing with your lessons are much harder to face and overcome than breaking a piece of wood with a karate chop. 

If you don’t deal with your life lessons, you will not graduate to the next level of experience.  I am very practical.  I did the karate chop stuff, but until I faced my feelings about why I felt that something was wrong with me, a weekend seminar about busting through something was temporarily a fun distraction, but when Monday morning came, I still felt like Pavlov’s dog doing the same old thing again. 

Law of Attraction: Beyond Mental Movies and Poor Results

 Law of attraction is a term that is heard much more commonly now since the movie “The Secret” by Rhonda Bryne has been such a big hit. 

I remember when I first became aware of the term at least ten years ago, it seemed a bit “out there”, but I found it interesting enough to begin to investigate it back then.  The more I learned, the clearer it became that it was really not a new concept at all. 

You see I realized that I had been attracting what I focused on with belief all of my life.  The problem was, in those days, most of what I focused on was what I did not want!  Actually, most people make this mistake. 

For example, most people are focusing on fear, lack and the negative headlines about our economy and so it is no wonder that things continue to take a downward slide.  I read everyday about the rise in stress and emotional depression.  Is it any wonder? 

It is the Law of Attraction at work.  What you focus on with feeling will expand.  This is a major key as to why the “secret does not work” for most people.  Most people are trying to use the Law of Attraction to attract more money, success, happy relationships etc, however, what they do not realize is that the other name for the Law of Attraction is “The Law of Vibration”. 

Attraction is based on “like attracts like” and most people’s vibration is on the level of LACK, not abundance and it is totally unconscious.  This is the problem.  You can run positive mental movies all day long and FEEL fear, lack, unforgiveness/bitterness and anger and thus be producing a vibration or “vibe” that will cancel out your positive mental movie. 

Feelings have a much stronger electromagnetic vibratory attractive force than do thoughts. 

Stress: Your Focus Determines Your Vibration

Stress is a killer and it is at an all time high.  Stress causes feelings that are harmful to your body when they are chronically released.  These feelings are actually chemicals. 

Feelings cause electromagnetic energy to radiate from your body (this may sound sci-fi, but I assure you it is not) and this sets up a vibrational pattern.  Haven’t you ever gone into a room and noticed the “vibes”? 

You are feeling the thought and feelings of others radiating outward into the environment.  Just because you cannot see them means nothing.  You cannot see electricity either; you can see the effect of it through a light bulb though.  Your body is like the light bulb. 

Here’s the point – what you focus on and give your attention to will impact your feelings.  Feelings determine your vibration and your vibe will determine everything from your health, wealth and relationships.  If you get yourself into anxiety, worry and fear, from listening to too much negativity about the economy or world events, you can get depressed. 

In fact, I just read an article in the NY Times today on this very topic.  People who are not even suffering financially are worried about the possibility.( Click Here NY Times)  Well,if you worry about it, you are actually more likely to attract it as you will start to put out the negative vibes to make it a reality. 

If your mind is focused on believing negativity is coming your way, your subconscious has the power to direct your behavior in the direction to make it happen.  It’s like a missile seeking machine. Haven’t you ever heard the term “self-fulfilling prophecy”? 

The Confidence to Imagine a New Reality

Confidence and self-image can have a major influence on your experience of life.  It appears to me that most people think that the way that they experience life is “just the way life is”. 

They say things like “get real” or “welcome to reality” or they think that if someone is habitually happy that that person must have their “head in the sand”.  Actually, reality is relative.  My reality is not your reality and vice versa. 

There is a lot or room for diversity of experience and how you perceive the world will make a difference in how you experience the world.  Your perception of life is not written in stone, it can be change with conscious choice.  What you see in your world presently came from previous choices. 

The way that you think and feel will determine your actions.  Your actions will ultimately create your habits and your habits are the foundations upon which you life is built.  Change your thinking and you will ultimately build different habits. 

Since we think in pictures, and the mind does not distinguish between something that is vividly imagined and felt and something that you are actually experiencing, you can begin to consciously co-create your “reality” by beginning with a new end result in mind. 

Self-Mastery and Conscious Creation

Self-Mastery is having awareness of your contribution to the creative process of your own reality.  It is mastery over the ego intellect and using the power within you to consciously create the outcome of your life. 

This is where purpose and destiny comes in.  If you sleepwalk through life on autopilot, unaware of how your thought and feelings create your experience of reality, you will continue to feel victimized and will play it safe as to avoid confronting your own limiting beliefs. 

This will take you to a fate of living out your unconscious, robot-like habits that have been passed down to you by well meaning, but also often unhappy or unfulfilled people.  If you wake up and understand the creative process, you can begin to consciously unfold your true destiny.

Marching toward this "fate" is certainly not thriving.  As Maya Angelou said, “surviving is important, thriving is elegant”.  Want to start living an elegant life?  One step is to start to realize that your thoughts and feelings really matter and that they are the starting point of everything from your health, to your wealth. 

This will determine ultimately where you live and work, and who you attract in your relationships.  We are hearing more and more about the “Law of Attraction”.  This law that addresses the energy of vibration is nothing new, but due to a number of factors, it is beginning to surface into the awareness of the masses of people. 

This is good as it opens the door to having new conversations about possibility.  We hear about how our brains use only 10% of its capacity.  Well, aren’t you curious about the other 90%?  I was and I am.  This is why I started out, even at the age of twelve, questioning life and wondering how I could improve the quality of my life. 

We have been subject to his law of vibration all along; the issue is we have not been aware of it and we have been creating what we don’t want. 

Quantum Physics: What's Your Vibe?

Quantum Physics revels that everything is energy.  Everything is energy.  This reference to energy sometimes spooks some people out and others think it is woo-woo.  

Unfortunately, ignorance is not bliss. 

What you don’t know can sabotage your life and it has never been more important that you become aware of “reality”.  What I mean by this is that there is more to life than what you can experience with your five senses of sight, sound, smell, taste and touch. 

Just because you are not aware of the Law of Vibration does not mean that you are not affected by it.  It would be the same if you refused to believe the Law of Gravity.  Whether you believe it or not, if you go outside and jump off of the roof of your house - you are going down! 

Well, it is the same with the Law of Vibration.  Like attracts like.  We live in a vibratory Universe and it responds to preset parameters and principles.  This is true whether you are aware of them of not.  For example, we know that your energy flows where your attention goes.  If you are giving your attention to negative media all day, or worrying and focusing on doom and gloom, do not be surprised if it really starts to pour into your life! 

What you focus on expands.